I’m devastated

I hesitated a long time before posting this. I kept it all quiet the first time, but now, I just don’t care anymore, because…what’s the point.

Two years ago, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was told this week that the cancer was back, in my lungs and in my bones.

And this time, it’s terminal.

I’m 39 and I have from a few months to a few years to live. It’s very uncommon for people to live 5 years (less than 1%).

I am married. I have two children, who are 6 and 10. I’m never going to see them grow up, and my youngest might have few memories of me. The children are going to lose their mother, my husband is going to lose his wife. I feel like I am abandoning them, and that destroys my soul more than the fear of dying.

So at this point in time, my writing career, which until now had kept me sane in the ever present fear of the cancer returning, is a dream I’ll never be able to achieve.
I was writing my third book. I’m not sure I’ll ever finish it.
I will also never write the final volume of my series.

Maybe I will find my strength back after a while and manage to take each day as it comes, but at the moment, the thought of going through chemo again and through all the horrid, horrid pain both mental and physical, knowing that it might not even work and buy me some extra time, just saps all my optimism and energy.

So maybe this is my last post. Maybe not. But I am going to spend most of the time I have left with my family, rather than behind a computer.

Live your life to the full. Dare to live your dreams. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Because you never know what tomorrow is going to bring.


9 thoughts on “I’m devastated

  1. I feel so very sad for you, Caroline. I live with the constant fear of hearing the very same thing, and can imagine just how devastated you must be. Do try and enjoy the time you have left…

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  2. Hugs. Caroline, you have been one of my favourite people I’ve met since I started blogging. I’m devastated that you are going through this and I wish that I could reach through my computer to give you a real hug. I can promise you this…your last comment couldn’t have come at a better time. I was feeling sorry for myself (hormonal) and sweating the small stuff. I promise I will try my hardest to live my life to the fullest. Thank you for sharing. 🙂 ♥♥♥♥

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  3. I am only now seeing this post. I am so sorry to hear this! It must be very difficult to deal with. I can understand why you want to focus on spending time with your loved ones.


    1. I’ve now passed the stage of horrid grief to be able to enjoy each day. I’ll be on treatment for the rest of my life, but hey, I might have 10 years left in me, who knows? I just need to do everything I always wanted to do NOW. It gives me a goal 🙂


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